November 21st, 2011
Ashley talks about her parents’ recent visit and how she asked them to consider calling her Ashley rather than her birth name.
She also recounts the reprimand she received from her employer for using the bathrooms matching her gender presentation rather than those of the gender she was assigned at birth. Ashley struggles to grasp her employer’s rationalizations, but she resigns herself to workdays blighted by elevator slogs to restrooms on different floors.
Jay follows up on his earlier suggestion that Ashley buy some “girly glasses” and asks whether HRT has tempted her to drink more so-called “girly drinks” (even though Jay admits there’s no logic to that question). Ashley announces her nail polish bottle count and suggests a way to trade some of her lesser-used polishes in exchange for others she might rather have.
Ashley talks about which polish she finally decided to wear during her parents’ visit, Nite Owl from Orly’s “Birds of a Feather” collection, a taupe with just enough shimmer to keep things interesting. Ashley also espouses the value of the common cotton swab and makes the case for Johnson’s brand over Q-tips for this tiny but essential makeup tool.
October 31st, 2011
Ashley’s work runs into some last-minute delays around finalizing her announcement and transition dates. Ashley also talks about her mundane experiences using the ladies’ room at shops and businesses outside of work and is taken aback when her company’s lawyers decide that transgender employees should only use the bathrooms that line up with their legal documents. The idea of being locked out of the ladies’ room pummels Ashley with nausea, and after pleading her case, some of the powers that be offer hints they may be willing to turn a blind eye.
Jay learns how orange sticks can be used to clean up nail polish that may have ended up outside the lines and a trick with Vaseline that one can use to help keep polish from falling outside the lines in the first place.