December 15th, 2011
Ashley gets catcalled and wolf whistled at while entering Target and feels a little apprehensive, but also feels a little pleased. Jay asks if her mixed feelings are unique to transwomen or if they’re common among all women.
They discuss the men’s clothes Ashley has already given away and the few masculine outfits she’s keeping for the time being. Jay asks Ashley about changing her watch style and whether she’s considered other accessories like toe rings, earrings, and other piercings.
Ashley fills Jay in on the latest updates to the Standards of Care, a set of guidelines outlining care and prerequisites for care for transgender persons. They talk over the positive and negative aspects of the updated guidelines, including fewer arduous waiting periods for some surgeries trans men may have, and the leftover stagnation among some of the preconditions for surgeries such as SRS.
Ashley shows off a top coat from China Glaze that can give any polish a matte finish and she offers a follow-up about her gel nails and the process she used to eventually remove her gel nail polish.
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Miss Grey Day here (from twitter), I loved the video! I especially liked the bit about women’s safety. I’m wondering if you have experiences with “female intuition” in terms of safety with men. One of the most powerful books I’ve read is “The Gift of Fear” in which the author outlines the vital importance of a woman’s intuition in keeping her safe. You mentioned the thought you had of your upper body strength in fighting an attacker off, this is something that genetic women have so often that we don’t always realize we’re even having those thoughts.
Thanks so much for your kind words about the show!
And that, “The Gift of Fear”, sounds like quite a cromulent read. It was actually a bit eerie for me as I read some of the reviews on Amazon that seemed to match pretty closely with my own feelings at the time: “As a teacher of women’s self-defense, I’ve heard many stories of intuition. Some people call it the ‘back ground music,’ because it is like the music that plays in a movie before something bad happens.”
Sounds like that could be worth a read!