Pronouns & History
November 7th, 2011
Ashley’s work finally makes the announcements to her coworkers about her transgender status, albeit with the grace of someone tripping down a flight of stairs, leading to cringes from herself and several of her team members. With euphemism piled atop euphemism, Ashley’s worried if everyone in the company will even be able to unravel the news their management is foundering to convey.
Jay talks with Ashley about her reactions to pet names she might come across — words like ‘darlin’ or ‘cutie’ that one might hear from a store clerk or a server at a restaurant. Jay also asks Ashley which name and pronouns she’d prefer when someone is referring to her in a story from before she came out.
Ashley also teaches Jay about two common types of toe separators one can use when painting one’s toes and weighs the advantages of each. Jay also learns about a new type of polish that allows one to wear two nail colors at the same time in which the second color peeks through a series of cracks in the first.
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Ashley, I was browsing an awesome online shoe sale today (lots of pumps and heels for 11 dollars!), and I thought of you, and how you said your feet are bigger than most girls’. That sucks, I know…my mom was size 11, and I am size 9.5. The girls in my family are amazons. Anyway, I thought to check your size, and LO, there are lots of cute options for you to check out! Here’s a quick link to the search. Act fast, though, the sale is ending today. :-D
Thank you so much for posting your podcasts. One of my best friends in college was M2F trans, and her family reacted so badly to her coming out announcement that she basically dropped the issue and continues to present as a man…7 years after the fact. What you’re doing takes incredible courage, to live an authentic life. This is the only life we’ve got, right? And yours is such a beautiful one. Thanks for sharing it!
P.S. I can’t imagine going through this in Dallas. Girl, you’ve got moxie!
Thanks for the heads-up, Erin—I’ll check that out!