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Coming Out to My Boss

October 18th, 2011

Jay Frosting

Ashley explains how she prepared to come out to her boss, with some help from the Human Rights Campaign, and her conversation with the boss to start the process around her transition at work.

Ashley also ponders an upcoming visit from her parents and mulls over ideas on how she might ask them to call her Ashley.

Finally, Jay and Ashley talk about makeup removal and cleaning makeup brushes.


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  1. October 24, 2011


    I’ve been following your site for about a month now thanks to a mutual friend and coworker who recently discovered your transition.

    I too am a MtF transgender person and find the similarities and differences in our journeys interesting. I’d love the chance to talk, even if only through email, not only to compare notes, but to perhaps just understand what other trans people are going through.

    Anyway, I think it’s incredible of you to offer your story in the form of these interviews and have really enjoyed listening to you. Let me know if you’d like to talk.

    Thank you, and the best of luck with your journey.

    – Chrissy

    • October 24, 2011

      Hi Chrissy!

      Thanks so much for your kind words! And I’d be happy to chat with you sometime :).

      If you follow me on Twitter (@FourthAndFirst), I’d be happy to DM my email address or phone number to you. Or, if you email the address listed in the end-credits of the show (missgenderpodcast @ the mail people starting with G), you can also reach me that way.


  2. October 24, 2011

    Jay, you might consider using the term “woman” rather than “girl”. Given Ashley’s age, she is definitely in the “woman” category. Since I know you in real life, I know you don’t mean anything by using the term “girl.” I just wanted to point it out since I personally prefer being called a “woman” now that I’m over 30.

    • October 24, 2011

      Hi Erica! It’s funny you should mention this as it’s something Jay and I have chatted about now and again. As it would happen, I mentioned to Jay that I’d prefer if he referred to me as a girl—I think of Jay as one of my girlfriends and it just kinda seemed to fit.

      Or am I going about this all wrong?

      • November 6, 2011

        Ashley, I’m glad to hear you and Jay talked about the term you’d prefer to use. I definitely think there’s a right or wrong in this situation. If you like the term girl then that’s definitely what Jay should use.

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