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So Many Trips! (s02e10)

December 31st, 2014

Jay Frosting

Ashley and Jay talk about Ashley’s travels over the last few months, including the family reunion she attended in July, her brother’s wedding in August, and her dad’s 70th birthday in October.

Her extended family at the reunion were super accepting, always using Ashley’s correct name and pronouns. Her parents, unfortunately, still haven’t made the switch 100%.

At her brother’s wedding, Ashley felt totally included among the other women, especially when they all went to get their hair done. Her Mom and Dad were generally charming and nice, but there were a couple times when they went back to using her old pronouns, and didn’t seem to notice. Maybe the liquor had something to do with that?

Ashley went to visit her folks for Thanksgiving, and they invited a friendly crowd of uncles, aunts, and cousins, who provided a healthy buffer around her. But once again, her parents’ tally of proper name and pronouns fell short.

Jay learns about Too Faced Lip Insurance, a lipstick primer from the same company that makes the excellent Too Faced Shadow Insurance (Ashley’s go-to eyeshadow primer). And Ashley shares her discovery about how applying thinner coats of nail polish can help make your nail polish more durable.

(Ashley’s polish in this episode is Style Maker from Sally Hansen’s Miracle Gel line. We aren’t being paid to say this — just thought maybe you’d like to know.)

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  1. January 3, 2015

    Wow, what a fascinating answer to my question. Thanks so much for bringing us the view from both sides, disheartening though it may be in the big picture. Sigh.

    Big hugs & good luck on the job front!
    Dinah

  2. Abigail #
    January 7, 2015

    Hi Ashley,

    I’ve been following your blog and podcasts for a couple years now and it pains me to see the struggles you are continuing to have with your parents. It’s obvious that they care about you deeply, but they seem to be holding on to the idea that if they ignore it, it’ll just go away. I’m very happy to see the rest of your extended family embrace the change so well.

    And I want to thank you for having the courage to do these podcasts. I’ve been struggling with this, and not in a healthy mental producing way, since I was at least 6. And seeing you go through this and talk about it let me finally walk into a therapists’ office a year ago and say it out loud for the first time in my life.

    With FFS looking like it’s going to happen in the next couple months, transitioning at work will happen at that time as well. And I’m terrified. But seeing your success has lent me a good deal of courage to proceed.

    Thank you!

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